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Choosing a person to care for your minor children

Nominating a Guardian

To make this safeguard official, name guardians through your Will (or in certain states, a separate Nomination of Guardianship). Your designations will have a lot of weight with the judge who would ultimately decide which guardian would be in the best interest of your children. This is especially important if you suspect that your loved ones might disagree over who should become guardian of your children. Asking the person you choose for this role to be a guardian will not alone show the court your intentions.

You can also make your wishes known through a Nomination of Guardianship, which is a simple document that is separate from your Will and acts as a letter to the judge. However, in most states, the judge may give greater weight to your choice if it is included in your Will because you might have signed your Will before two witnesses and/or a notary.

Picking the right person to be your children’s guardian may be hard. You obviously want someone who knows and loves your children, and most people pick someone within the family. But you also may want someone who lives in the same geographical area, so your children’s lives will not be completely uprooted. Or you might prioritize someone who shares your values or who practices the same religion as you. You also want to consider lifestyle and age. Your brother might be your best friend, but if he’s single and travels extensively, is full-time parenting the right fit for him? Same for your own parents, who might not be able to provide the kind of care your child needs as they age.

You also can name backup guardians in case the person you choose as the primary guardian is unable to take on that role.

Whomever you choose, you should talk through the decision with your children’s other parent and with the potential guardians. Be open to the possibility that the other parent may have different wishes and that  someone you trust so much may not feel up for the responsibility.

Other Considerations

Families and plans change over the years. The best friends you named as guardians when your first child was born may no longer be as close to you, may have moved away or gotten divorced. You may now have four kids instead of one, so it would be overwhelming for the guardians to take care of all of them in addition to their own children. Just as with all parts of your estate plan, you should regularly re-evaluate and updated your guardianship nominations. To name new guardians for your children, update your Will or Nomination of Guardianship in accordance with your state’s estate planning laws. Finally, make sure you coordinate your nominations with your children’s other parent to avoid confusion and conflict.

Tips on dealing with your digital afterlife in your estate plan

No matter how many fans, followers, or friends we have in this life, at some point we’re all going to die. Here are some of the most common questions people have about what happens to their social media presence after they’re gone.

Q: What happens to my social media accounts when I die?

A: The short answer: Nothing. Not automatically, anyway. Unless you take steps to outline your wishes—or adjust some simple settings on Facebook—your accounts will remain visible and “active.”

Q: How will my loved ones get access to my social media accounts?

A: As with your financial accounts, you’ll want a secure way to provide usernames, passwords, and any multi-factor authentication information to the person you designate. Remember, your Will is not the best place to reveal this information because it can become part of the public record.

There are many options for securely storing your social media access information, but we hope you’ll consider using our bank-level encrypted Vault where you can feel confident filing any important documents you want secure cloud-access to.

Q: How do I designate someone to manage my accounts?

A: Each social media platform has its own policy concerning the accounts of people who have died. They are all likely to evolve over time as this issue becomes more and more relevant. In less than 50 years, Facebook will have more dead members than living ones, so it’s not a problem that can be ignored.

In Facebook’s General Account Settings, under Memorialization settings, you can request to have your Facebook profile permanently deleted after you die or identify a Legacy Contact to look after your account. That person can accept new friend requests, manage tribute posts, delete posts, change the profile picture, and remove you from tags, but they cannot see your messages or add or remove friends.

Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn accounts don’t yet have the same “legacy” option. However, those accounts can be deleted by a direct family member or person you’ve designated as your power of attorney by providing proof of your death.

Q: How do I decide if I want someone to delete or deactivate my social media accounts?

A: Figuring out the future of your Facebook page may seem like a slightly silly discussion topic amid all the other important end-of-life decisions you need to talk about with your family. But as with many things concerning your estate, they are the ones who have to live with the decision. Talk with them to see how they feel. A couple things to think about: Some family members might think of your social posts and photos as akin to a diary and would never consider deleting something so priceless. On the flip side, those helpful birthday reminders and “you have memories” notifications that social sites send could be painful, especially while your loved ones are still grieving. Keeping a social media page but having the legacy contact turn off notifications can be a good compromise.

A How-To Guide for talking to the people you love about what happens when you die:

Most of us have been taught that politics, religion, and money are topics to avoid with family and friends. They are charged with emotion, highlight our differences, and lead to some uncomfortable interactions. Another topic people tend to avoid talking about—especially with our families—is what happens when we die. You know it’s important, but you steer clear of it anyway.

We want to help you to be better prepared to approach these awkward, but necessary, conversations about end-of-life preparations. Whatever your family dynamics look like, there are tips and tools you can use to have more empathetic conversations with your children, siblings, parents, and other loved ones.

Talking With Your Kids

Losing a parent is hard on a child, regardless of the child’s age. But how you prepare your children for when you are gone will change over time as they grow older. School-age kids should be comforted knowing they’ll be taken care of by someone who loves them. As they become older teenagers and adults, it’s time to have more candid conversations about your estate plan, especially if you’ve selected one or more of them to be your:

• Agent on a financial power of attorney
• Trusted health care decision-maker
• Your executor
• Your trustee

They don’t have to be privy to every element of your plan, but it can be helpful to keep them in the loop on the location of your estate planning documents and how to access other accounts as needed.

If you’ve selected one of your children over another to be part of managing your estate, you might want to discuss your rationale—one child lives closer, is more organized, or is older—so there are no hard feelings among siblings. If your children will be responsible for your last wishes, outline the details in your estate plan and also discuss what you want to happen to your body (cremation, burial, donating your body to science), as well as specific instructions for your funeral or other type of celebration or ceremony. This also is an opportune time to discuss end-of-life health care decisions. A 2021 study found that although 90% of people think having conversations about their end-of-life healthcare decisions is essential, just over a quarter (27%) have done so. If you have an advance directive or living Will, your wishes should be spelled out, but discussing them out loud ensures there are no surprises.

Talking With Your Parents or Older Relatives

Once you’re an adult, it’s time to discuss with your parents what kind of plan they have in place. If you know they’ve neglected estate planning, you and your siblings or other relatives are going to be the ones trying to clean up the chaos when they die.

At some point, you also may be the person left to care for older aunts, uncles, in-laws, or grandparents. If these individuals have not designated anyone else to manage their affairs, discuss making your role more official, such as naming you as the agent in their powers of attorney, so you’ll be able to take care of financial and healthcare decisions for them.

If you have a good relationship with your siblings, try to get aligned before having a conversation with your parents so everyone is on the same page. And if you can’t seem to make any headway simply talking about the topic, try sharing informational articles, walking them through a digital estate planning site, or scheduling an appointment to meet with an estate planning attorney. You can’t force them to create an estate plan, but you can help to demystify and simplify the process for them.

Having The Talk

You don’t want to ruin a family celebration by talking about death, but if the holidays or birthdays are the only time you get together as a family, set aside a separate chunk of time to have an estate planning discussion. Be prepared for some emotion and be open to questions and differing perspectives. It’s important to be honest but not overwhelming. These are important decisions that need to happen, but they don’t all have to be finalized in one conversation. Focus on the fact that estate planning provides peace of mind for everyone—both the person dying and their loved ones left behind.

Having a loose agenda or checklist of topics can help ensure you cover all the essentials. Be sure to include Wills or Trusts, financial power of attorney, and healthcare power of attorney.

Six reasons people think they don’t need one when they really do

TL/DR:

In short, everyone can benefit from having an estate plan. There is no specific income threshold or criteria to meet in order to need an estate plan or gain the benefits from having one in place. Your circumstances and personal wishes are what guides how estate plans are created, but the specifics of your life shouldn’t prevent you from realizing the benefits of having an estate plan.

This article explains under what specific circumstances you might need an estate plan and why the reasons you think you might not need one aren’t always true.

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For many people, the word “estate” in estate planning conjures up images of a mansion with servants and grand staircases and probably a stable out back. Most people don’t see themselves in those images, which means they relegate estate planning to the über-wealthy. The result? You likely have formed a few misconceptions about who needs an estate plan, confident in your belief that it’s simply not for you. But that’s a costly mistake many people make. Here, we bust six of the most common myths about who needs an estate plan.

Myth 1: Not me, I’m not rich enough.

Do you have a savings account? A car? A dog? These are not the trappings of the rich and famous, but they are parts of your estate that will need to be taken care of or find a new home when you die.

Reality: Yes, you have an estate, which is really just a fancy word for all your stuff. There is no minimum net worth that triggers a need to create an estate plan, but rather a series of decisions you can choose to make. Otherwise, you will let laws drafted long ago determine where your stuff should go and a judge who has never met you might decide who should manage your affairs and take care of your kids. You may already have designated a beneficiary for some of your accounts—your 401(k) and life insurance, for example. But that’s just a first step toward a plan; estate planning is the best way to direct how the rest of your property and possessions should be divvied up.

Myth 2: Not me, I’m not old enough.

We get it—lots of people put off estate planning because it makes them confront the idea of death. But guess what? It’s going to happen to all of us, and none of us know when, so it’s better to be prepared, right?

Reality: You can start estate planning as soon as you turn 18 (and in some states, even younger!), but the real trigger is when you start acquiring things—money, real estate, vehicles, collections—that you want to protect after you die. And, of course, having kids is one of the biggest reasons people start thinking about estate planning.

Even in their 20s, most people have possessions they’d like to see passed on to family members or other loved ones. You may be worried that no one in your family would know to give your pets to your neighbor or friend, rather than surrender them to a shelter. Or, if something were to happen to you, you feel strongly that you would want certain family members (but not others) to manage your affairs or make medical care decisions for you.

Myth 3: Not me, I don’t have any valuable property to pass down.

Just because you don’t own real estate doesn’t mean you don’t need an estate plan.

Reality: Often value is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe you and your favorite nephew have always shared a passion for model trains and you would want him to end up with your train set that he always admired. Or you would like to make a last cash gift to your favorite charity as part of your legacy. You can include instructions in your will about sentimental possessions too, ensuring they are preserved and appreciated by future generations.

Myth 4: Not me, my family knows exactly what I want to happen when I die.

Do they really? Are you sure? Do they know your feelings about organ donation, and would they respect them? If your family situation is calm and uncomplicated, that may be true. But that’s not most of us.

Reality: Making an estate plan is a gift to your loved ones that protects and provides for them while clearing up any confusion about your wishes. If something were to happen to you, it will be an upsetting time for those who step in to make the toughest decisions on your behalf. There could be disagreements about your treatment and care, who should sign paperwork on your behalf, and where your stuff will end up. When you take the time to put instructions into documents like an advance health care directive, a financial power of attorney, and a Will and/or Trust, you eliminate second-guessing and free your loved ones in making those tough decisions.

Myth 5: Not me, I don’t have kids, so I don’t need a Will.

Writing a Will that designates guardians for minor children is a commonly cited objective for estate planning, but it’s not the only one by a long shot.

Reality: If you die intestate (without an estate plan), your possessions and property will pass to your children or spouse in some proportion that varies by state law. But if you’re single and don’t have kids, then it actually makes it more complicated to decide what to do with your stuff. Depending on the state, all of your stuff might go to your parents, otherwise your siblings. If you want anyone else – a nephew, friend or charity – to receive anything from your estate, however small, you need an estate plan.

Myth 6: Not me, I’m not dying anytime soon, so I don’t need to worry about estate planning now.

The COVID-19 pandemic taught us a lot of important lessons about living in the moment, including facing our own mortality. It’s a wake-up call that many of those ages 18 to 34 heard loud and clear. In 2021, 63% more people in that age group created a Will than in 2020.

Reality: In addition to being prepared for the unexpected, there’s a very important part of estate planning that many people forget about because it covers what happens when you’re alive. Signing an advance health care directive and financial power of attorney are two estate planning steps that allow someone else to make decisions on your behalf and grant signature authority over your affairs. The advance health care directive, when it includes a living Will, also clarifies your wishes for the type of medical care you want to receive if you are unable to make decisions for yourself or communicate for yourself.

The bottom line:

Everyone can benefit from an estate plan regardless of circumstance. That doesn’t mean everyone’s estate plan will look the same, it just means that the answer to “who needs an estate plan” is… me.